Those who have experienced divorce know that it can be devastating. The end of a marriage comes with immense change and can be traumatizing, especially after a contentious divorce case. However, as some divorcees thrive, others struggle following the conclusion of a case. The difference may lie in how individuals channel the emotions they experience during and after divorce. Here, we will explore some strategies to overcoming the trauma often associated with marital separation, helping clients live a happy and healthy life post-divorce.
Commonalities in Divorcees Who Thrive
Those who successfully overcome the difficulties of divorce have several traits in common, mainly shifts in an overall outlook on life:
A greater appreciation of life – After tragedy, even the most mundane details of life can seem extraordinary.
Increased personal strength – Once you’ve been through emotional trauma, you’re not nearly as afraid of facing whatever life throws at you next.
Increased intimacy and better relationships – Living through trauma can make you more compassionate and empathetic to others.
Recognition of new possibilities or paths in life – Suffering often changes your priorities. It can also teach you to see opportunities you may have ignored before.
How to Shift Your Mindset & Lead a Fulfilling Life
It can be difficult to embrace the above outlooks, especially if your divorce was unexpected. However, taking some proactive steps can help expedite the healing process:
Seek counseling- Studies have increasingly shown the benefits of counseling after a big life change. Learning various coping skills can help you get through hard times-present and future. In cases where children are involved, counseling can be especially beneficial.
Find your passion (and pursue it) – Clients often state that their hobbies and passions were lost in the shuffle of marriage and family. Post-divorce, find the time to reflect and gain an understanding of your passions in life. Finding hobbies that you enjoy can be a therapeutic experience.
Cultivate Supportive Relationships – It may seem difficult to continue pursuing friendships that were a result of a marriage. However, fostering existing friendships, especially those of good quality, can help with the feelings of rejection and isolation that come with divorce. This transition can also be a good time to pursue new friendships based on your new hobbies and passions.
Divorce is an incredibly difficult experience. However, remembering to care for yourself and embracing your new path in life can help you thrive in this next chapter.